Stop the Drama Before it Starts: Tips for Financial Discussions in Relationships

For a long time, it was considered taboo to talk about money while dating or in relationships. But did you know that arguments about money are the second-leading cause of divorce, only behind cheating? And since it’s been estimated ⅔ of marriages start in debt… There are more than a few opportunities for fights.

Whether you are in a committed relationship, or just want to avoid struggles later on, it’s crucial you don’t avoid talking about finances. Ignoring the issue just gives it time to grow, after all. And the longer it festers, the bigger issues it can cause in not just your relationships, but your overall quality of life. 

Find Strength Through Discomfort

The best way to solve this issue is to be open and up front. While money should be your lowest priority in finding the person you want to be with, you shouldn’t put off talking about finances. Since it can be uncomfortable and stressful to have these kinds of discussions, take a deep breath (or two or three…) and follow these tips:

1. Acknowledge your discomfort and uncertainty. 

Solid relationships are built on trust. Part of that is being vulnerable, and being able to admit where you can improve. Plus, when you talk to your partner with humility, it makes it clear this is a discussion and not an argument.

      2. It’s OK to ask for help.

You can’t get better if you ignore that there’s a problem in the first place. That’s like ignoring a cavity and ending up needing a root canal. Whether your partner is also struggling, or they have things under control, if they’re a good fit for you, they should be open to offering help — or at the very least supportive of your efforts.

     3. Learn how to master “The Money System” together.

Have you ever said something and your partner took it a completely different way than you’d intended? Miscommunication happens. Having a common language is a great way to combat misunderstandings. When you and your partner take the course together, you have more opportunities to build that foundation together and get your finances under control with minimal anxiety. 

The sooner issues are addressed, the fewer problems you’ll have in your relationship. So don’t wait to have the hard discussions, and learn how to manage your money more effectively together now!

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